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I would like to say that it goes against my nature to be compassionate. But I would be lying. It is easy to be compassionate concerning your children, wanting to make sure everything works out in their favor, that life and love don't leave scars.
Being compassionate for someone elses pain, grief, saddness means you take yourself out of the picture. In no way do you become the focus, ever. To realise that during such levels of grief, they are dealing with emotional, physical and psychological overload.
Monday, April 25, 2011
The sad news is...
Life is hard. Around every corner, there is another hurdle. What we make of the sitsuation is what defines us.
Do we live in the past, beating ourselves, and or others for our choices, failures or successes?
Why not just leave the past there. Accept it. It happened, and go on. I've had this conversation more more than a few people. Have read similar thoughts and ideas from friends who are struggling with issues.
I have to say that looking back at all my history there are very few things I would change. Most of my decisions I would let stand. The ones that I had hurt someone, physically, mentally or emotionally I would change. But being that we cannot change history, I have adopted the mind set of not repeating those actions. Am I perfect. not at all. But, I am better than I was.
High School has been in the fore front of my mind here lately. Unfortunately a High School friend is dealing with a very devistating and tragic event. The social networks have brought us all back into eachothers lives after so many years. Where typically before we would get this news at the next class reunion. To know immediately that grief and shock so heavy being bourne by a person known in younger days. I must applaud those classmates who were able to be there in person.
Do we live in the past, beating ourselves, and or others for our choices, failures or successes?
Why not just leave the past there. Accept it. It happened, and go on. I've had this conversation more more than a few people. Have read similar thoughts and ideas from friends who are struggling with issues.
I have to say that looking back at all my history there are very few things I would change. Most of my decisions I would let stand. The ones that I had hurt someone, physically, mentally or emotionally I would change. But being that we cannot change history, I have adopted the mind set of not repeating those actions. Am I perfect. not at all. But, I am better than I was.
High School has been in the fore front of my mind here lately. Unfortunately a High School friend is dealing with a very devistating and tragic event. The social networks have brought us all back into eachothers lives after so many years. Where typically before we would get this news at the next class reunion. To know immediately that grief and shock so heavy being bourne by a person known in younger days. I must applaud those classmates who were able to be there in person.
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Staying at a five.
I have delved back into the mystical world of Dressage. What was I thinking when I faded out the last time. So basically, and forgive the pun... back in the saddle again... I am realizing (HA more like been told by many people} That I need to "slow my roll" Soften the mind, try not to think to much about it, let it happen, don't force the issue.
And then an epiphany, I live at a 9 (1 -10 scale of energy output.) I have been recently instructed that to learn, I need to become a 5. That in its self is difficult, but with so many people wanting me to succeed, plus my own determination to do this. I am tackling the most difficult part of my own being. Slowing down. And when I feel myself getting up in the numbers, my safe word, "5" It brings me back to where I need and want to be. I have seen a great improvement with Hawk, he likes it better, who wouldn't?
So... The first schooling show for the TVDCTA [Tennessee Valley Dressage Combined Training Assoc.][[and my first in....13 years]] is this next Saturday, with a clinic following on Sunday. Yep, in for a penny, in for a pound, decided to ride the clinic as well. Which in a way will be beneficial. Our judge will break the scores down as why they are marked that way and hopefully how to improve the rides. I remember from my very first dressage ride many years ago, "needs to utilize the aids to become a more effective rider" I totally understand that now. So, lets hear it for amazing weather, a cool breeze and well behaved horses and riders!
And then an epiphany, I live at a 9 (1 -10 scale of energy output.) I have been recently instructed that to learn, I need to become a 5. That in its self is difficult, but with so many people wanting me to succeed, plus my own determination to do this. I am tackling the most difficult part of my own being. Slowing down. And when I feel myself getting up in the numbers, my safe word, "5" It brings me back to where I need and want to be. I have seen a great improvement with Hawk, he likes it better, who wouldn't?
So... The first schooling show for the TVDCTA [Tennessee Valley Dressage Combined Training Assoc.][[and my first in....13 years]] is this next Saturday, with a clinic following on Sunday. Yep, in for a penny, in for a pound, decided to ride the clinic as well. Which in a way will be beneficial. Our judge will break the scores down as why they are marked that way and hopefully how to improve the rides. I remember from my very first dressage ride many years ago, "needs to utilize the aids to become a more effective rider" I totally understand that now. So, lets hear it for amazing weather, a cool breeze and well behaved horses and riders!
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